SOPHIE Ellis-Bextor has claimed to have been raped as a teenager by a 29-year-old musician.
The Murder on the Dancefloor frontman told him ‘no’ and ‘I don’t want’ – but lost her virginity to the guitarist after going to his apartment.
Speaking for the first time about what happened, the singer shares an excerpt from her new book with the Mail on Sunday that she wants her voice to be heard 25 years after the heartbreaking incident.
After meeting at a concert, the anonymous musician asked Sophie, an A-level history student, to return to her apartment to see her study books.
Describing what happened next, Sophie said: “Jim and I started kissing and before I knew it we were on his bed and he took off my panties.
“I heard myself say ‘No’ and ‘I don’t want to’, but it didn’t make any difference.
“He didn’t listen to me and he slept with me and I was so ashamed. That’s how I lost my virginity and felt stupid.
“I remember looking at Jim’s libraries and thinking, I just have to let this happen now.”
Sophie writes that the way we talked about rape had nothing to do with consent.
Knowing that she had not been “cornered or insulted” made her believe that she had no business.
But Sophie admits that keeping it a secret so far has made her feel “an accomplice.”
“My experience was not violent,” she adds.
“All that happened was that I was not listened to. Of the two people present, one said yes, the other said no, and the yes person did when same.
“The older I get, the more austere this 29-year-old ignoring me was.”
The mom of five says she doesn’t want to “name and shame” the alleged rapist.
Instead, she is raising her five sons to understand the concept of consent.
“I was not heard when I was 17, but I think I will be heard now,” she added.
- Spinning Plates by Sophie Ellis-Bextor released on October 7.